I am getting forced out of my house soon because of being gay and transgender.
Mum: “You either need to stop acting like a boy and be a girl, or get out. You are ruining your little sister’s life with your choices. A six-year-old cannot go around and say, ‘I have a two brothers, one used to be a girl.’ That’s not right and God and I are disappointed in you.”
I don’t know what to really do. I just turned eighteen, and I don’t have a job yet since I am trying to finish up schooling.
If anyone has a room open or something in the Las Vegas area, please help.
I will try my damn hardest, even if it means I cannot go to college, to get a job and help pay bills if it is necessary.
But I cannot live here anymore because of my family.
While the MPAA goes after people for downloading ripped theater vids of Twilight, 92 year old Hyman Strachman has been churning out shitloads of DVDs of first run movies to send to American troops overseas. Because he’s old and he’s doing it for the troops, so the MPAA can suck it.
There’s something really screwed up about the way we talk about queer representation in children’s media.
In the U.S. culture at least, there’s this instantaneous association of queer people with sex. Queer people are automatically highly sexual individuals—ergo, not ‘appropriate’ for the eyes of little kids, all of whom MUST BE STRAIGHT, RIGHT, whose heads we think would probably just explode when confronted with the oh-so-incomprehensible suggestion of gender and sexual orientation diversity existing on this planet.
Deeply ironic since—oh let’s look at Avatar the Last Airbender, the show. It features kids at ages 12-16 kissing (always het, of course)—and even strongly implies that two characters are engaging or planning to engage in some heavy petting at night. No one screams for the sexual neurosis of the child fans.
But it’s impossible for, eh, a ten year old on the sequel show to be queer, maybe have a crush on someone of the same gender. That would just make straight adults kids uncomfortable, obviously!
People who would like to see the queer community represented (aka most of us queer people) are forced to preface any sort of headcanon or fan theory about a character being gay or trans* with, “I know this would never happen in a kid’s show/I know this isn’t true,” because… the idea of an ACTUAL CANONICAL QUEER CHARACTER IN A KID’S SHOW IS—just not possible, right?
Because if we don’t acknowledge the absurdity of actual representation while saying, “hey, I read this character as a lesbian,” people will hammer us with “THAT’S NOT POSSIBLE, IT’S NOT TRUE, THIS IS A KID’S SHOW, STOP TALKING ABOUT KIDS THAT WAY, YOU’RE MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE, KIDS SHOULDN’T THINK ABOUT THINGS LIKE THAT.”
As if we aren’t aware of the impossibility of ever seeing people like ourselves in children’s entertainment.
As if we need to be told that we will only ever be seen as perverse deviants.
As if we need to be told that no one wants to see us.
But I have to ask you, person concerned with the frailty of our children’s minds:
What do you think that tells queer kids?
I’ll tell you, from my own experience as a child who knew they were queer:
It tells us that we’re gross, that we’re not appropriate to be seen by other children, or even anyone.
It tells us that we are perversely sexual.
It tells us that we’re not normal.
It tells us that we’re not as important as straight, NORMAL children.
It tells us that we deserve to be neglected and ignored.
It tells us that we’re alone, that queer children like us don’t exist.
A phrase I see around fandom a lot is, “People just aren’t ready for a kid’s show with/about a gay character (much less a trans* kid).”
So I’m just going to throw it out there—
When do you think people will be ready?
If you heard a tv show about a gay kid was going to premiere next year, would you be okay with it at that time?
How about in five years?
When are queer kids going to be able to pick up a book or turn on the tv and see someone like them, a queer character, to let them know that they’re not alone; that it’s fine to be whoever and whatever they are; that they’re not abnormal; to realize hey, I think I am like this person; to have a way to talk to their family about their identity; so that they maybe won’t have to learn self-loathing at such a young age?
What exactly do you think needs to change this to happen?
Perhaps a better question: When are YOU going to be okay with it?
And why aren’t you okay with it now?
THIS. This is what we have been ranting about. This is what is wrong with media marketed at kids right now.
That’s difficult. I can’t really narrow it down to just one, you know? But among my favorites is 3 Doors Down, Seether, Lifehouse, and… about 216452164 million other rock bands. U:
4. How do you handle stress?
Stress? I tend to bottle it up and avoid the problem ;;; I have a hard time with confrontations, be they of the literal upfront sort or purely imagined. Idk, I get paranoid and tend to think the worst of things. ;3; My social anxiety certainly is no help.
7. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Ahh, that’s difficult, too. I have a hard time seeing that far ahead; it’s too ambiguous for me. I have a very rough idea where I’d like to be, but the uncertainty kills me and I just don’t like thinking that far into the future orz;;;
9. Favorite genre of movie?
I don’t really have a favorite genre. o n o~ I literally just watch whatever sounds interesting. I just like things that have a decent plot, something thought out and not just slapped together. -shrugs- I just wanna connect in some way with whatever I’m watching. Or reading, for that matter… though with books, it’s a little easier to say… since I tend to deviate toward science fiction— the believable sort, though. Something that teases the brain and uses a sound line of logic, be it imaginary or based in the real world, as its basis. -shrug-